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Awkward Repressed Anger

What happened, from wikipedia:

On April 8, 2009 [Billy Bob Thorton] appeared on the CBC Radio One program Q, hosted by Jian Ghomeshi, with the rest of his musical group the Boxmasters. During the first half of the interview, Billy Bob sounded nervous or confused and gave erratic answers, such as answering direct questions with “I don’t know”. When asked about his musical tastes and influences as a child, he gave his longest answer, but it was about his favorite “Famous Monsters of Filmland” magazine. He also stated that he had told the show’s producers to not ask any questions about his career as a screenwriter and actor. However, Ghomeshi did mention it in the introduction of the show, and this appeared to have upset Thornton. Later Thornton complained that Canadian audiences wouldn’t get up and move, saying that Canadians were like mashed potatoes without gravy. This caused an outpouring of criticism from CBC listeners.

What I noticed in this video is Billy Bob Thorton’s awkward repressed anger. Don’t you find in Chinese culture, that is also a very common behavior? It shows up in families, churches, meetings… etc. Is that what people call “passive-agressive” behavior? Whenever conflicts arise, Chinese people are so good in repressing their anger to maintain outward harmony and appropriateness, yet something boiling is happening under the skin. And such discontentment accumulates year after year until one day it blows up wreaking major havoc in relationships. Maybe it has something to do with our shame-based culture and all the shoulds and should-nots that are embedded in our social expectations. I don’t know…… sadly, sometimes I too find myself a victim of this psychological impairment.

Has this ever happened to you? How do you deal with it?

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